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On Distinguishing Between Your Heart and Fear

Who is talking my heart or fear?

Sometimes we get very uncomfortable with a situation, a job, relationship, project or client and we start to feel that something isn't right. Something is not aligning. Most creatives are very self-aware but almost to the point of fault. It can be really hard for us to know if our heart is speaking or is it fear?

I have a couple tactics that I use to help me dissect this feeling and get closer to the answer.

1. What part is most uncomfortable? What are you complaining about the most? Imagine (or actually) speak to a friend or spouse about what is happening and see if you can pin point what exactly is the biggest most uncomfortable part about your situation. Is it how your being treated? Is the work going against a moral belief? Do you feel like your wasting time and not using your strongest skills?

2. Once you get closer to the one thing that is bothering you, start to think about how could this be better? What would you change to make this situation better. Hang on to that outcome.

If the outcome, that thing you would change, is something small or doable then most likely fear is speaking. If you just wish someone was nicer, or if the task was easier or less risky but it's still a very similar situation with just some tweaks - it's most likely that our bodies and minds are just outside of their comfort zone.

If it's hard to find a silver lining to your situation, if the outcome you imagine is something so completely different, then it's most likely your heart talking. If you imagine that there is no solution to this problem or you can't believe how you could ever have been in this situation, it's likely your heart is somewhere else. Your heart is already moving towards another reality. You can not think of solutions because it's clear that there is no alignment in you core belief and where you stand now.

I hope this helps you start to feel closer to an answer. Continue to dissect and listen to what your intuition is telling you. Is it helping you become more comfortable with difficult situations or is it leading you somewhere else?

Let me know what in the comments what has made you uncomfortable recently and if you think you are being triggered by your heart or by fear. 

with love,

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